{"id":1437,"date":"2012-01-05T14:58:40","date_gmt":"2012-01-05T04:58:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mindtomind.com\/?p=1437"},"modified":"2016-11-05T01:01:38","modified_gmt":"2016-11-05T06:01:38","slug":"be-passionate-take-responsibility-the-blame-game","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindtomind.com\/test\/be-passionate-take-responsibility-the-blame-game\/","title":{"rendered":"Be Passionate about Taking Responsibility. Stop the Blame Game"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1><strong>Be Passionate<\/strong><\/h1>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">Take Responsibility<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>There is nothing quite so empowering as taking <strong>responsibility<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>There is also little doubt that most people <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">do not<\/span> like doing this!<\/p>\n<p>As a lawyer for 20 years, I experienced many people running to their lawyers, asking for help, playing the role of <strong>victim<\/strong>, by blaming others for their problems. These people had entered into transactions and legal relationships and did not want to <strong>accept responsibility<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><strong><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"><em>8 Key Strategies to Avoid Responsibility<\/em><\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><strong>Blame<\/strong> is one of the 8 <strong>key strategies<\/strong> that people use rather than to take responsibility.<\/p>\n<p>The <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">other<\/span> 7 strategies are:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Make <strong>excuses<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Justification<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Apathy<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Pass the Buck<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Avoidance<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Denial<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Complain<\/strong> and do nothing.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>These 8 <strong>strategies<\/strong> are used by <strong>victims<\/strong> and\/or <strong>martyrs<\/strong>. They are very <strong>seductive<\/strong>. They are easy to do, and if you are a victim, it is likely that you will get <strong>sympathy<\/strong>, <strong>attention<\/strong>, and perhaps even <strong>compensation<\/strong>. Just contemplate what happens to those people who are featured in television <strong>current affairs<\/strong> programs!<\/p>\n<p>Yet, it is ultimately depressing playing the role of victim. There is nothing <strong>inspirational<\/strong> about doing so.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"><em><strong>The Blame Game<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>In fact, if you play the \u2018<strong>blame game<\/strong>\u2019, my shorthand description of any of the 8 strategies mentioned above, you are highly unlikely to learn what you need to learn from your experiences. There will be little growth in your life. I have found that if I totally <strong>accept responsibility<\/strong> for whatever I experience at any point in my life, I learn very quickly the lessons that are contained in such experiences. The faster I learn my lessons, the better I get<\/p>\n<p>We need to be aware of why there is such a tendency to play the blame game.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><em><strong><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">Leaders Often Set a BAD Example<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/h2>\n<p>Our <strong>political leaders<\/strong> set a lousy example for us, followed closely by <strong>business leaders<\/strong>. When politics or business go bad, most leaders busily run around avoiding any possible hint that they may have had any part in any failures or mistakes or misadventures. Further, they then look for the <strong>scapegoats<\/strong>, and boast to the <strong>media<\/strong> that \u2018<strong>heads will roll<\/strong>\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>Do not be drawn into such behavior. It will destroy you.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"><em><strong>Do the Right Thing for You<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Mind to Mind and ZOX Pro Training are both processes that help you develop the mental toughness and resilience to improve your ability to do this.<\/p>\n<p>When you take responsibility and blame nobody for what happens to you, you are in control of your life. You have a chance of living an inspiring life. It is an energizing way to live life.<\/p>\n<p>I commend it to you.<\/p>\n<h1><strong><em>Charles B Kovess<\/em><\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<address><strong>Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD<\/strong><\/address>\n<address>Australasia\u2019s Passion Provocateur<\/address>\n<address>Certified Speaking Professional<\/address>\n<address><a href=\"http:\/\/kovess.com\/\">www.kovess.com<\/a><\/address>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Be Passionate Take Responsibility &nbsp; There is nothing quite so empowering as taking responsibility. There is also little doubt that most people do not like doing this! As a lawyer for 20 years, I experienced many people running to their lawyers, asking for help, playing the role of victim, by blaming others for their problems. 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