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Change Just One Thing, Then the Domino Effect Changes Your Life

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How to achieve your change:

the role of your stimuli…

Change Behavior

Changing behavior is usually most difficult.

The two key factors that you need are Stimuli to change, and then Support.

This blog article will deal with the necessary Stimuli that will lead you to successfully changing your behavior.

Two examples of desired changes that we seem to have the greatest difficulties in lie in the area of weight loss and attitude.

The first question to answer is this: ‘Why do you want to lose weight or have a different attitude?’ You MUST be able to answer this specifically and at some length and with some passion to ensure your chances of success.

The Passion Success List of Wants…

Here are some reasons WHY, that will provoke your thinking to develop your own special Stimuli that will also engage your passions:

  • I want to be healthier
  • I want to live longer
  • I want to be alive when my grandchildren become adults
  • I want a better sex life
  • I want to be more attractive to others
  • I want more energy
  • I want to be more productive
  • I want to fit into my clothes that I love that are sitting in my cupboard
  • I want to save money by not wasting it on junk food
  • I want to get rid of my headaches
  • I want to attract my soul mate into a life long relationship
  • I want to increase my self-confidence and self-esteem
  • I want to achieve something great that is difficult
  • I want to save money on medical bills
  • I want to avoid diabetes and heart attacks
  • I want to be head hunted for a great new job because I have the right attitude
  • I want to avoid being sick
  • I want to avoid spending any time in hospitals
  • I want to have more energy to play with my children
  • I want to have more energy to keep learning and developing
  • I want to be a great team player
  • I want a great reputation in my industry for being an excellent contributor and a quality person.

Successful people are clear and specific on the reasons, on what they will gain through the change of behavior and what problems they will solve or avoid by doing so.

Achieving Success in Your Lifetime…

Now, write down your own set of reasons to change, and the longer the list, the better!

I will explore the need for, and the different types of, support in the next blog article.

My various blog articles on the Mind to Mind website will be helpful in provoking some ideas in designing your stimuli.

 

Charles B Kovess

 

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD
Australasia’s Passion Provocateur
Certified Speaking Professional
www.kovess.com

Passion vs. Drugs. You Have Unlimited Energy Stored Here!

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Passion vs. Drugs

Your passion, and the need for drugs to handle depression

My definition of passion is that it is ‘a source of unlimited energy from your soul, or your spirit, or your heart that enables you to produce extraordinary results’.

Far too many people, research shows, are not pursuing their passion or doing what they love, or are not enthusiastic about their work. I love the etymology of ‘enthusiasm’: it comes from two Greek words, ‘en’ and ‘theos’, meaning ‘inside God’. When you are enthusiastic, you are similar to the mindset of God!

Published information from Governments around the world show that vast numbers of people are taking anti-depressant drugs, at huge cost to themselves, to their families, and to Governments that fund these drugs or fund health systems that have to deal with people suffering from depression- like symptoms.

Note that I did not say ‘depressed people’: this is a label that is thrown around far too often. There is a range of over 20 symptoms that lead one to conclude that depression is being experienced by a person, but it is a continuum along a combination of symptoms.

It is not black or white, depressed or not depressed!

 

Pursue Passion

I passionately believe that if more people were pursuing their passion in their work, and in their lives, the need for anti-depressant drugs would drop dramatically!

I believe that depression-like symptoms arise because human beings find their spirits being ‘depressed’, or ‘squashed’. They are not in touch with their spirit because they are ignoring their passions! They are ignoring what they love to do. They are ignoring the yearning of their spirits, their souls. This is a depressing thought in itself!

 

Anti-Depressants and Brain Chemistry

Through the passage of time, some people might presently need anti-depressants because their brain chemistry has been so damaged by depressive thoughts over the years that they cannot function without the drugs. I acknowledge this need, but it does not apply to most drug takers. Even for such people, weaning one’s self off the drugs simply takes longer than most.

Matt Ridley, in his wonderful book Genome, points out that our non-physical thoughts cause our genes to produce physical chemicals in our bodies. Depressive thoughts produce depressive chemicals.

If you are taking anti-depressant drugs, or you have family or friends who take them, then make the decision to discover and then pursue your passions. Your life is too precious and valuable to spend it doing anything that generates depression-like symptoms.

 

Find Your Passion… Find Your Way

My various articles on the Mind to Mind website will be a great start for you on this journey.

Mind to Mind and ZOX Pro Training are both processes that help you develop the mental toughness and resilience to improve your ability to be ever more disciplined in your behaviors.

Charles B Kovess

 

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD
Australasia’s Passion Provocateur
Certified Speaking Professional
www.kovess.com

Be Passionate about Taking Responsibility. Stop the Blame Game

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Be Passionate

Take Responsibility

 

There is nothing quite so empowering as taking responsibility.

There is also little doubt that most people do not like doing this!

As a lawyer for 20 years, I experienced many people running to their lawyers, asking for help, playing the role of victim, by blaming others for their problems. These people had entered into transactions and legal relationships and did not want to accept responsibility.

 

8 Key Strategies to Avoid Responsibility

Blame is one of the 8 key strategies that people use rather than to take responsibility.

The other 7 strategies are:

  • Make excuses
  • Justification
  • Apathy
  • Pass the Buck
  • Avoidance
  • Denial
  • Complain and do nothing.

These 8 strategies are used by victims and/or martyrs. They are very seductive. They are easy to do, and if you are a victim, it is likely that you will get sympathy, attention, and perhaps even compensation. Just contemplate what happens to those people who are featured in television current affairs programs!

Yet, it is ultimately depressing playing the role of victim. There is nothing inspirational about doing so.

 

The Blame Game

In fact, if you play the ‘blame game’, my shorthand description of any of the 8 strategies mentioned above, you are highly unlikely to learn what you need to learn from your experiences. There will be little growth in your life. I have found that if I totally accept responsibility for whatever I experience at any point in my life, I learn very quickly the lessons that are contained in such experiences. The faster I learn my lessons, the better I get

We need to be aware of why there is such a tendency to play the blame game.

 

Leaders Often Set a BAD Example

Our political leaders set a lousy example for us, followed closely by business leaders. When politics or business go bad, most leaders busily run around avoiding any possible hint that they may have had any part in any failures or mistakes or misadventures. Further, they then look for the scapegoats, and boast to the media that ‘heads will roll’.

Do not be drawn into such behavior. It will destroy you.

 

Do the Right Thing for You

Mind to Mind and ZOX Pro Training are both processes that help you develop the mental toughness and resilience to improve your ability to do this.

When you take responsibility and blame nobody for what happens to you, you are in control of your life. You have a chance of living an inspiring life. It is an energizing way to live life.

I commend it to you.

Charles B Kovess

 

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD
Australasia’s Passion Provocateur
Certified Speaking Professional
www.kovess.com

Combat Post Holiday Depression – SMILE

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Combat Depression – Smile!

Here you are again at the end of another year, and guess what? It always ends up the same way for you. Once the event is over, you are depressed. The air has been left out of your balloon; you are down in the dumps… Viva passé.

The lead-up to your event you have planned so much for, given so much energy towards, and looked forward to for so long has finally arrived… and is over. All the preparation, the anxiety that everything will turn out right, that everyone will “get along”. Ha! All the energy you have poured into creating the perfect event has left you flat in the aftermath.

Depressed

So, now you are depressed. Are you just going to stay depressed? Or are you going to do something about it?

Initiative

One of the easiest ways to pull yourself out of the doldrums is to give yourself a task that you can really sink your teeth into. When was the last time you did anything different, or new?

Paradigms

Look at your life; the routine of the things you do each day, the types of people you are around, the beliefs and opinions you support. All of those limit you in what is referred to your “paradigm”. Your paradigm is your version of reality; your “matrix”. Most people do not do anything different from day to day.

Carpe Diem!

Seize the day!

Time is of the essence. Time is too short to stay depressed. Do something different. Don’t hesitate. Experience something new. Learn something you never knew before. Meet some new people. Start right now. Make a list of 10 things you would like to do, that you would not normally do. Pick 1 or 2 of them and get started.

Results of your actions

It will make you feel great! Once you start accomplishing your new directions, you will get a good feeling; a feeling of self-worth and self-esteem. A feeling of “I am Alive!” You will feel better about yourself and the world you live in. Be prepared to leave your depression behind.

Great Things Happen Here!

Do You Have Powerful Vision and Support for Your Life?

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Having a vision for your life is powerful and supports your passion

Ask yourself …

Where are you going?

Why do you do what you do?

How do you decide what to do and what not to do?

Are your choices in alignment with your passion?

 

It seems that few people are able to answer these questions. But, if you can answer the questions confidently and optimistically, your chances of success rise significantly.

The best way to answer the questions is to have a vision for your life; a vision that excites you and generates energy for you, leading to increased productivity and personal effectiveness.

A vision for your life is a SEEING concept: what is the ideal life, in 5, 10 and 20 years’ time that you can visualize for yourself?

Some examples of a personal Vision that I have suggested to my coaching clients and to attendees in my passion workshops are:

∞ My vision is that I am a well-regarded and competent business leader who is making a difference on the planet

∞ My vision is that I have made a significant contribution globally to eradicating world poverty

∞ My vision is that I have 5,000 internet clients who pay me monthly sums that enable me to handle all my financial requirements with ease and comfort

∞ My vision is that I am a Minister of the Government and have an impeccable reputation

∞ My vision is that I am married to a person who loves me deeply and who supports me in pursuing my passions

∞ My vision is that I am CEO of a top 200 listed company that I earned through my excellence in my profession.

Such a vision also needs to be in alignment with your current passions, as you have discovered them to be through following my blog articles or in any other ways.

Mind to Mind can provide resources for you to continually develop your mental skills to effectively craft such a vision.

When your vision is clear, then:

  • You know where you are going
  • You know why you do what you do
  • You are clear on the factors that you take into account when making decisions.

It’s a great way to live.

I commend it to you.

Charles B Kovess

 

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD
Australasia’s Passion Provocateur
Certified Speaking Professional
www.kovess.com
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