Category: Passion

Develop Great Relationships With Lovers, Family and Friends

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Your passion helps you have great relationships with lovers, family and friends

It seems to me that there are few things more important than relationships with lovers, family and friends.

Living your life with passion has a huge impact on your relationships.

Here are 7 key strategies to provoke your thinking on how and why this linkage between passion and relationships is so strong.

1. The willingness to be true to yourself.

Stop trying to appeal to everybody: you won’t! Yet, to whom will you appeal? This is almost impossible to answer, particularly since every person experiences life uniquely, through the filters of their subconscious minds. And it is our subconscious minds that enable us, indeed drive us, to create our beliefs and behaviors.

Therefore, the most effective strategy is to be true to your own beliefs and values, and to be true to how you wish to live your life; those with whom you come into contact can then make their own choices on whether they are attracted to you or not. You become ‘authentic’.

2. Doing the work to discover and pursue your passion.

I have been researching and speaking on the topic of passion for over 18 years, and have pursued my passions for over 50 years. What is ‘passion’? It is a source of unlimited energy from your soul, or spirit, or heart that enables you to produce extraordinary results.

When you are passionate, you immediately raise your personal energy and become far more attractive to other human beings. As the law of gravity states: the inter-attractiveness of a body to another is determined by its mass, and your passion increases your metaphysical mass. You will stand out from the crowd, and others will notice you more readily.

3. The willingness to simplify your life.

There is too much ‘stuff’’ in our lives that does not fulfill us, nurture us, or give us lasting joy.

When you discover your passion, you are more able to decide what is important to you. You can discard unnecessary complexities that you are hoarding, or pursuing, ‘just in case’ they might make you happy. Simplifying your life creates time for you to devote to your relationships that have been created because you are being true to you.

4. The willingness to be vulnerable.

I learned a long time ago that when vulnerability meets vulnerability, it creates intimacy. Intimacy is the hallmark of great relationships.

When you are vulnerable, open, honest, courageous, and true to yourself, other people are more likely to feel your essence and respond similarly Then intimacy can be created, and you need to spend less time proving your commitment to the relationships: others become less demanding because the feeling of intimacy is a powerful glue that holds the relationships.

5. Allow others to be true to themselves.

Release your need for others to behave in ways that suit you. If you are going to be true to yourself, then allow others to do the same. That way, you can more quickly decide whether you are truly attracted to another person, or whether it’s their ‘act’ that has drawn you in. Real and valuable relationships can form more quickly.

6. Adopt the concept of ‘Parallel Thinking’.

Edward de Bono’s book ‘Parallel Thinking’ beautifully explores our 3000-year tradition of Western philosophical thought that proposes there is ‘truth’ to be discovered in any issue. De Bono however says there are often times when competing ideas or thoughts can run ‘in parallel’ because there is no truth: for example, in designing a new car or a new building.

By allowing parallel thoughts to run in your relationships, you become much more flexible, leading to less conflict about what is right, wrong, true or untrue, and you become much more lovable and fun to be with.

7. The willingness to learn the principles of time management.

I have worked with many time poor executives over the past 18 years, in both corporate groups and as their executive coach. I am appalled by the quality of time management skills of most of them!

Develop your ability to protect your time and invest it in matters that are of importance to you, particularly the building of great relationships. There are many sources available to learn these skills. If you invest your time in developing these skills, you will enjoy a remarkable reduction in stress and a remarkable increase in your experience of the many joys of life.

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD

Australasia’s Passion Provocateur©

Certified Speaking Professional – Kovess.com

Your Pursuit of Passion Should Never Take a Holiday

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Get more passion for your health and reap the rewards

 

Ask Yourself,…

  1. Are you passionate about your health?

  2. What is your health worth?

  3. How would you know if you are healthy?

 

Based on over 45 years’ of exploring and implementing alternative health regimes, I have developed my own definition of health, and I commend it to you. Hardly anybody I have met has a clear definition in their mind! My definition is this:

‘Health’ is the unique optimal balance for each person of mental, physical, and spiritual elements.

Most people consider themselves healthy if they are not sick or specifically unwell in a particular aspect. However, this is a limited and limiting view of our existence. Imagine a health spectrum of 1 to 100, where 1 is almost dead, and 100 is perfect health. Not being unwell is just 51 on this scale. A minor ailment would put you as unhealthy, but probably at 49.

You would be unlikely to say you are ‘healthy’ if you have ailments.

Now, on this spectrum, or scale, where would you rate yourself and your health? Tell the truth: don’t fool yourself.

I repeat my question at the start of this blog: are you passionate about your health?

If your health is over 90 on my scale, then these are the rewards you will reap:

 

∞ You are highly energetic
∞ When you are highly energetic, you can add enormous value
∞ The universe rewards you based on the value you add, so you will receive enormous benefits
∞ The benefits will be mental (money, recognition, status, achievement), physical (things you can buy with money, experiences, feeling great) and spiritual (fun, contribution, friendship, passion)
∞ You will spend very little on medical bills and you won’t worry about medical insurance at the highest level
∞ You will not lose time in hospital having operations or treatments
∞ Your relationships will be improved because it is difficult to be loving and caring when you are unwell
∞ You will have an outstanding sex life
∞ You will have more fun: being sick is not fun!
∞ You can live your life continuously on purpose and with meaning, without constant and frequent interruptions because you are unwell.

I suggest to you that the rewards for you in dollar terms of this list of items is many millions of dollars.

When you see this, you will learn not to ignore your health, or to accept a health assessment of less than 80 on my scale.

Don’t be silly: learn to value your health. Generate a deep passion for your health. Be happy to pay the price of caring for your health. It is a ridiculously small price to pay!

 

Charles Kovess

 

Kovess International

“Harnessing Passion for World-Class Results!”

Reap Extraordinary Rewards Adding This Secret Recipe

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Use your passion to add value

Reap extraordinary rewards

Your passion is a source of unlimited energy. This energy comes from your soul, or spirit or heart. Every human has passion, but it appears that not many are pursuing it.

I believe that the Universe rewards us in life for the value that we add to others’ lives. The Universe clearly works according to certain scientific and predictable principles, and this is one of those principles.

This does not mean that you will not receive anything without adding value: that is a different principle at work.  For example, refugees receive assistance and support without giving anything in return.

So my challenge to you today is this: identify the value that you are adding! Investigate deeply to understand how much value you are adding,

I encourage you to start thinking about these two challenges, and then articulate your responses. When you start to understand how this universal principle works, and apply it to yourself, you will behave differently. You might ask for a pay rise, or you might even say to your employer, in your integrity, I am not adding enough value so you should either reduce my pay or increase the ways in which I can add value.

Your ability to add value is linked to your passion.

When you are passionate, you have access to amazing amounts of energy, and this energy determines your productivity. Your productivity will determine the value that you can add.

Let me share three specific simple examples of adding value:

1.    A florist who sells you flowers for a funeral for $60 is adding value to your life because she is satisfying your (non-material) desire to express your sympathy to someone who matters to you. If that desire is strong, it is clearly worth more than $60, and the florist has added value.

2.    A receptionist at a business who earns $700 per week may or may not add value. What problems does he or she solve while acting as a receptionist?

3.    As a professional speaker, when I earn $6000 for a speech, if just one member of an audience who is a salesperson changes his or her behavior to be more passionate and more effective, the value generated for the company who paid me could easily be more than $60,000 every year thereafter!

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD
Australasia’s Passion Provocateur©
Certified Speaking Professional
Kovess International

Discover Your Passion: 10 More Steps

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DISCOVER YOUR PASSION:

10 MORE STEPS …

Passion is an amazing resource, that every person can access. But you do need to do more than ‘wishing and hoping’ to discover your passion.

These 10 steps are in addition to my earlier article “7 Key Steps to discover your Passion”.

Please read that article as it will be helpful to you if you have not already done so.

These 10 practical, proven and powerful steps will assist you on your journey of discovery. The more time you spend contemplating the ideas, writing down your insights, and exploring the ideas with your trusted friends, the greater will be your success!

“And the greatest success you can have”, suggested Socrates, “is to say that you examined your life and that your awareness about yourself has increased.”

The 10 Steps …

1. What are the biggest mistakes you have made in your life and what did you learn from them?

2. What are the biggest risks you have taken in your life and why did you take them? You will need to explore your thoughts and feelings as they were at that time.

3. Who do you admire and why do you admire them?

4. If you had $20 million in the bank, what would you do with the rest of your life? Sitting about and golfing and sailing will be interesting for about 6 months – then you have to do something or you will die. Three of my friends who were all multi-millionaires at 40, retired, and then returned to the game of life and business before they were 41, risking much of what they had created up to that point in their lives. Humans are not meant to be sitting around, doing nothing.

5. From the answers so far, what have you discovered that you are good at?

6. Read books on personal development for at least one hour per day, every day! For a lengthy list of excellent choices see my book, ‘Passionate People Produce’ (Hay House).

7 Listen to audio CD’s on personal development topics on your iPod or in your car when you are traveling.

8. Take responsibility for your life: don’t play the victim / martyr game by blaming anyone for where you are now at in your life’s journey. It is so easy and seductive to play victim/martyr! You will receive sympathy, attention, and, sometimes, even financial compensation. If you want specific examples of what I mean, look at many of the subjects on television current affairs programs. Yet, playing victim is ultimately depressing, it ‘depresses’ your spirit, and you are highly unlikely to learn anything, leading to repeat the unpleasant experiences again until you learn what you need to learn.

9. Understand that you become what you think about: your thoughts create you and have created you so far. Therefore, please write out your vision of what you wish to become in 50 words or less, and then every day work to control your thinking so you focus on what you wish to be, not on the negative experiences and problems that might be filling your life. Your actions and behaviors are driven by your thoughts. What do you think about most of the time?

10. If your thoughts are too negative, or depressing, or sad, or uninspiring, and you can’t change them, get professional assistance. The best sporting stars in the world almost always have coaches, so you can get a mental coach!

I promise you that if you do the above work, the results will be remarkable.

You will discover a new you.

Charles Kovess

Kovess International

9 November 2011

“Harnessing Passion for World-Class Results!”

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