That Which Does Not Kill You Makes You Stronger

The 3 Most Important Seconds of My Life

Eastern Brown Snake - Australia

Eastern Brown Snake – Australia

PEOPLE have events that shape their path in life. Some events solidify the path they are on, some events change their direction in life forever, and some of these events end life. I have had several significant events in my life that have led me to the specific path that I am on. Early in my life I started noticing these things. I also came to understand that these events were to help me become the person that would be meeting higher and higher challenges. This article is about one of those events.

“That Which Does Not Kill You Makes You Stronger”

– Friedrich Nietzsche

 

A Millimeter Away From Death

There is one thing that strikes fear into Australian’s like nothing else…

As you know, I live in Australia. I enjoy the landscape, the plants, and the wildlife. The diversity of wildlife is an interesting mix. Everywhere I look, I see pretty and colorful birds, like various cockatoos, rosellas, galas, fairy wrens, honey eaters, finches, swallows, magpies, choughs, and many more. Some mornings I wake up to find 300 – 400 sulfur-crested cockatoos in the paddock. In American terms, a fortune on the wing!

I also see many marsupials, such as kangaroos, wallabies, echidnas, and others. The wallabies can be a little tame to the point that you can at least have a good look before they move on. Some people have made them so tame they will eat out of your hand. The echidnas are a little slow, but they sure can dig in fast. Don’t ever try to get one out of the ground after they dig in. It is their instinct to shiver their spikes when they are touched – ouch! At least they cannot throw their spines like the quills of the North American porcupine.

The insects here can be a bit of a mixed bag. The dragon flies are most impressive. They are quite large with striking metallic color. They can eat a huge number of mosquitoes each day. It is not a good idea to grab one, as they can easily take a small bite out of your finger. So, when you find that you have a large amount of dragonflies, you also have a large number of mozzies. “Mozzie” is a shortened name that is used across Australia for any mosquito.

My observations and research have proven useful to me. I have determined that one of the mosquitoes we have is the Asian Tiger Mosquito. That news is NOT good news. The Asian Tiger Mosquito is a carrier of several types of encephalitis type diseases, including Ross River Fever and Dengue Fever. Most people do not realize the mosquito is the leading cause of death around the world. Since it must have a blood feed twice, it is easy for it to transmit diseases.

Of course Australia is world renowned for its flies. They are in interesting lot, which includes sand flies and midges. Don’t even think that a screen on your window will keep them out. Ha, they just walk straight through the holes. Our sand flies leave a little extra punch when they bite you; a caustic that creates a blister. But don’t scratch it. If you do, you will spread the caustic and you will have even a bigger problem. It will also leave a pock for ~6 months while it heals. I created a few tricks of my own making to combat these – a hand-held ionization device made from a gas barbeque igniter. It ionizes the caustic poison.

Spiders and scorpions are also commonplace. Where I live, the climate gets a little too cold for the Sydney Funnelweb Spider. Well, that’s a blessing. But we still have plenty of others you got to keep a watchful eye for.

Yes, I am starting to make this sound like one of the documentaries about the Australian wildlife straight out of America. I guess I was a little saturated with the American way of looking at it before I came here to live. Australia is still an arid hostile environment in most areas. So, nature has equipped its natural inhabitants with some world-class killing tools to survive, you can kill yourself in 5 minutes.

A while ago, I wrote two articles about dealing with fear. You can review the articles here: https://mindtomind.com/test/information_conquers_fear_mental_photography/, and a second article:  https://mindtomind.com/test/information_conquers_fear_mental_photography_2/.

The one thing that most people in Australia have is common fear of snakes. This fear can be anywhere between “healthy respect” to “blind, screaming, running phobia” towards snakes. We have 9 out of the top 10 deadliest snakes in the world are here in Australia. We even have 22 out of the top 25 deadliest snakes in the world. So watch out if you ever land here!

The Fierce Snake, or Inland Tiapan (Oxyuranus microlepidotus ), has a venom so toxic it could kill 100 men in a single bite. Luckily, this snake is not around where I live. But, there are plenty of Eastern Brown Snakes (Pseudonaja textilis ) where I live. They have the second most toxic venom in the world. It is estimated that only 2 mg of venom is enough to kill a person. Eastern Brown Snakes are very fast moving and highly aggressive. We do occasionally see them. Most of the times you see them is on the road, after they have been run over by a car.

Now, the reason I brought up about the top 2 deadliest snakes in the entire world will become apparent soon.

Some people wonder if I practice what I teach others about. I do. I would first like to bring your attention to the first article listed above. During the article on dealing with fear, I talk about what information can do for you.

Here is a lesson in basic humanity. (Of course, there will always be someone that will argue the case that it isn’t so, so I will allow for that and say ‘most’.) The amount of specific good information you have on any topic dissipates your amount of fear towards that topic. Therefore, it is relevant to say the LACK of information INCREASES fear. I guess a good argument against this would be about banking. The more true information that you know about banking would send some people out of control into a pit of despair. So, I have done the naysayers out there the benefit of giving them the example forthright.

 

Face to Face With Death

What I am about to tell you about is my own recent experience when faced with something that could result in a very quick ad painful death. Yes, I had an encounter with an Eastern Brown Snake. And to answer your other question; no, I am not a snake handler. When I come in contact with things like snakes, it is an occasional occurrence, much like it would be for most of you. You are more likely to see a live poisonous snake at your zoo, behind glass. So, remember, I don’t deal with this type of encounter very often.

I often talk about the things you can do to increase your mental abilities and your mind power. I have worked with these methods, the same methods I teach, for many years. When I am thrown into a critical circumstance, my decision making becomes lightning fast at analyzing the event and coming to the conclusion of what I should do in less time it would take to blink – virtually instantaneous. Even better is that I have ample specific information to act from. This all happened so fast, that there was no sense of “thinking about it” happening – just action.

The “action” was: for me to not do anything at all. (Yes, there is action in non-action because it is based upon a decision – consciously of subconsciously.) Therefore, I had no fear response that would have sent fear based pheromones into the air the snake would have sensed. There was only stillness. To me, it was if time had stopped, without any stress. As the snake escaped, I felt the cool belly scales as he slid over my sandaled foot without as much as a second look. He was happy to move on to pick his battles elsewhere – with mice. I too, was happy with the results of the encounter. This entire encounter lasted about 3 seconds.

Those 3 seconds could have changed everything in my life-path. Instead, it turned into an observation I could share with you. Some people may say, “My life passed before my eyes.” No, it didn’t. Just for that instant, it was just me and the snake. Maybe I will just make a joke about it and say, “I would have tasted awful to the snake, so he chose otherwise.”

 

Lessons Learned

Don’t panic – Use your head.

Be aware – Don’t wear sandals when you should be wearing appropriate shoes for the setting.

Think! – Arm yourself with appropriate information for your setting or endeavor.

Granted you cannot anticipate everything. But, superior decisions can be made with superior information at hand.

 

My Advice to Everyone

LEARN as much as you can every day. If you have not learned 1 thing each day, then you are not in the world of the living.

Increase your Mind Power – Do whatever you can to increase the adaptability of your brain. Your brain is capable of processing around 200 million of bits of information every second of every day. The more you exercise your brain, the more access you gain. Crossword puzzles are only so effective at brain building. At some point, they are really only good for maintaining a certain level. You need more – MUCH more stimulus if you are going to make a difference.

Discipline yourself – A BIG issue with many of my clients is starting then stopping the training. Whenever you stop before reaching your goals, your conscious mind thinks that you have failed, even when you haven’t. Commitment and Consistency are paramount to your success at anything. Some of my clients have repeated that same start and stop with OTHER trainings from OTHER organizations they took in the past. I don’t want them to repeat the same mistake with my training.

Set Goals for Yourself – If you have small goals, you will have little successes. Some people will do better if they start with something a little less intimidating; like meditation training. If you find that the ideas of what I teach are too overwhelming, then you should probably start with something a little less aggressive, like meditation. Everyone has heard of it and knows what it is about. At least this way you will be finding out more about yourself and how your mind really works. My point is DO SOMETHING. You owe it to your eternal self.

Faithfully,

Shannon Panzo

 

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The Word of the Day is Support, S U P P O R T

The Word of the Day – Support

 

How to achieve your change: designing your Support

As I said before in my previous article,s changing behavior is usually most difficult.

The two key factors that you need are Stimuli to change, and then Support. That earlier blog discussed your Stimuli.

This article will deal with the value of designing the necessary Support that will lead you to successfully changing your behavior.

I will continue by exploring two examples of desired changes that we seem to have the greatest difficulties in: weight loss and attitude.

After you have answered the first question of why you want to lose weight or have a different attitude, you then need Support if you are amongst 90% of the population to help you achieve this change. I acknowledge that 10% of the population can change as soon as they realize the stimuli for the change: they don’t need Support!

There are two types of Support: Internal Support and External Support.

The first is entirely you.

The second is external to you.

Here are some examples. More are available from my website and my books.

 

Internal Support

• Read your goals of weight loss or attitude change aloud morning, noon and night
Visualize with emotion daily how you will feel when you succeed in losing weight or changing your attitude
• Make your affirmations daily that you have designed
• Reward yourself when you have taken a successful step along the way of weight loss or attitude change.
• Impose a penalty on yourself when you have failed to do what you committed to do.
• And so on….

 

External Support

• Hire a personal trainer
• Hire an executive coach
• Use a counselor, psychologist or psychiatrist
• Join a gym
• Do ZOX Pro Training
• Have a wager with another friend who also wants to lose weight or change attitude. Bet that you will do better than they will!
• Get one or more friends to join you in a group to achieve similar changes.
• Create or join a master mind group
• And so on….

Successful people learn that most of us need Support. They are willing to be held accountable by ‘external’ forces that help them change in the ways that they want to change but are likely to fail.

Now, write down your own possible Internal and External Support Mechanisms, and the longer the list, the better! Use your imagination and remind yourself of all the possible resources you have been exposed to that will support you.

As I said, ZOX Pro Training is one of these resources.

My various blog articles on the Mind to Mind website will be helpful in provoking some ideas in designing your Support.

 

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD
Australasia’s Passion Provocateur
Certified Speaking Professional
www.kovess.com

Be Passionate about Taking Responsibility. Stop the Blame Game

Be Passionate

Take Responsibility

 

There is nothing quite so empowering as taking responsibility.

There is also little doubt that most people do not like doing this!

As a lawyer for 20 years, I experienced many people running to their lawyers, asking for help, playing the role of victim, by blaming others for their problems. These people had entered into transactions and legal relationships and did not want to accept responsibility.

 

8 Key Strategies to Avoid Responsibility

Blame is one of the 8 key strategies that people use rather than to take responsibility.

The other 7 strategies are:

  • Make excuses
  • Justification
  • Apathy
  • Pass the Buck
  • Avoidance
  • Denial
  • Complain and do nothing.

These 8 strategies are used by victims and/or martyrs. They are very seductive. They are easy to do, and if you are a victim, it is likely that you will get sympathy, attention, and perhaps even compensation. Just contemplate what happens to those people who are featured in television current affairs programs!

Yet, it is ultimately depressing playing the role of victim. There is nothing inspirational about doing so.

 

The Blame Game

In fact, if you play the ‘blame game’, my shorthand description of any of the 8 strategies mentioned above, you are highly unlikely to learn what you need to learn from your experiences. There will be little growth in your life. I have found that if I totally accept responsibility for whatever I experience at any point in my life, I learn very quickly the lessons that are contained in such experiences. The faster I learn my lessons, the better I get

We need to be aware of why there is such a tendency to play the blame game.

 

Leaders Often Set a BAD Example

Our political leaders set a lousy example for us, followed closely by business leaders. When politics or business go bad, most leaders busily run around avoiding any possible hint that they may have had any part in any failures or mistakes or misadventures. Further, they then look for the scapegoats, and boast to the media that ‘heads will roll’.

Do not be drawn into such behavior. It will destroy you.

 

Do the Right Thing for You

Mind to Mind and ZOX Pro Training are both processes that help you develop the mental toughness and resilience to improve your ability to do this.

When you take responsibility and blame nobody for what happens to you, you are in control of your life. You have a chance of living an inspiring life. It is an energizing way to live life.

I commend it to you.

Charles B Kovess

 

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD
Australasia’s Passion Provocateur
Certified Speaking Professional
www.kovess.com

In Your Life, What Can Be Worth That Much?

Living and working with passion: why it matters so much …

 

Passionate individuals Achieve.

Passionate individuals Perform.

Passionate individuals Inspire.

 

Imagine tapping into your extraordinary talent and energy each working day. Picture the growth, the rewards and the results.

Sadly, not many people are passionate about their work. Think what are you passionate about? Yet, if business is to thrive in the 21st century, leaders must create an “extra-ordinary” level of commitment from their people. A commitment based not only on the mental – but one that also involves the emotional – passion.

Whilst Mind to Mind helps you to harness your extraordinary mental capabilities, we need the energy source of passion to capitalize on these capabilities.

In the late 20th century, information became the new business nightmare. Managers were surrounded, inundated – and often drowned – in information, much of it useless. So much so that electronic overload threatened. This is another reason why ZOX Pro Training is so relevant and important.

The “Knowledge Age” is passing as we rapidly head into what I refer to as the “Passion Age”. This new era will see the mastering of the difficult part of business – people issues. Physical resources are the easy part. That is why so few organizations successfully access the knowledge and wisdom and passion of their people: it’s just too hard.

Passionate performers make no distinction between labor and leisure, education and recreation. They simply pursue their vision with a commitment and energy sustained by their passion. Do you know what does it mean to have passion!

Effective leaders and performers understand the principles of motivation, that’s a given, but motivation and passion are not quite the same. One is a reactive process, the other a proactive one. Managers, coaches or corporate mentors all motivate, certainly, but this is achieved externally. One can encourage a person to be motivated, one can even teach them how to be motivated, but passion comes from the soul.

 

The Pain-Pleasure Equation

Leaders who want to access the passion and knowledge of their people must first understand the major drivers of human behavior, the pain-pleasure equation. It’s simple to define: how much pain is an individual willing to accept for a future pleasure?

Consider sportspeople and musicians: they are willing to undertake years of what is at times painful training because of the promise of pleasure that inspires them. Now translate that level of passion to your own life and to your organization:

1. What benefit will employees derive from contributing their passion and knowledge to the business?

2. What pain or disadvantage will employees reduce in their own lives by doing so?

3. What is the present pain that blocks employees from contributing their passion and their knowledge?

4. Can employees clearly see the pleasure they will gain from contributing the passion and knowledge and facing, or experiencing, the pain of doing so?

5. Is the pain of contributing passion and knowledge greater than the pain of being “safe” in a low performance environment?

The successful builders and leaders of tomorrow’s world-class businesses and lives will be those with a strong empathy-based style, who create a passionate, results-driven, working environment. Tell me examples of passions in life.

Charles B Kovess

 

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD
Australasia’s Passion Provocateur
Certified Speaking Professional
www.kovess.com

Your Word For Today is “Spry”, S P R Y

Be “Spry”

 

Building a Good Vocabulary

Do you remember when your grade school teacher would give everyone the word of the day? You were to use it in as many sentences as you could throughout the day. This is a great way to build a good vocabulary…  O N E  W O R D  at a time. Actually, at that rate, you would probably be reincarnated to your next life before you really would have a substantial vocabulary.

Now, before I tell you the exciting bits, I am going to tell you about the word “spry”. It is a very good word, because it can be used in many ways. It is an adjective. Which also means it can be used to describe other words, a person’s mood, an activity, and many more fun things. So, for spry’s sake, here is what it means:

Synonyms for Spry:

brisk, nimble, agile, lively, active, sprightly, vigorous

So, now you know what spry means.

Here a couple of examples of using spry in a sentence:

Gee, he has a ‘spry’ walk.

I am planning to have a nice ‘spry’ day!

You could even use it in combination with another of my favorite words, “glib”:

I really enjoy a ‘glib spry’ conversation! (Oh! I just remembered. I hadn’t given you the other word yet. Oh well… just a bit, in a ‘glib’ sort of way.)

Don’t worry, it is just all bushwa! (Now there is a very nice sounding word. You would think it would be French… of sorts.)

By now, you may be a little peeved with me for using words that you are not comfortable using. Well, go to your shanty and have a little whinge. When you decide to do something about it, come back and see us.

Really, in the world of today, it is not enough to have a good vocabulary, but you really do need to know what words mean at a deeper level; their vibration, their impact.

I recently queried a person living in Canada about the spelling of their name. Even though the person was Canadian, the name turned out to be Welsh, the country of origin was Wales. My personal curiosities lead me down strange paths from time to time.

(Here is something fun for the single guys: The next time you find yourself in the awkward position of the opening line to start a conversation, ask an intelligent question that makes the other person think a little; but not so much they go into meltdown over it. You never know where it may lead. You may even get the opportunity to ask a second question. NOTE: Stay away from the topics of politics, sex, and religion. You might go for something like, “What is the spelling of hyperbole?” Just make sure you pronounce it right. If they know the correct spelling, they have potential.)

I would like you to share the fascination and joy of this seemingly boring world of words with me. But you have much to do if you are playing catch up.

There is a training you should take a look at… Gee, I must have forgotten what it was called… It had such a catchy name, too… It just has to be here somewhere…

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