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Combat Post Holiday Depression – SMILE

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Combat Depression – Smile!

Here you are again at the end of another year, and guess what? It always ends up the same way for you. Once the event is over, you are depressed. The air has been left out of your balloon; you are down in the dumps… Viva passé.

The lead-up to your event you have planned so much for, given so much energy towards, and looked forward to for so long has finally arrived… and is over. All the preparation, the anxiety that everything will turn out right, that everyone will “get along”. Ha! All the energy you have poured into creating the perfect event has left you flat in the aftermath.

Depressed

So, now you are depressed. Are you just going to stay depressed? Or are you going to do something about it?

Initiative

One of the easiest ways to pull yourself out of the doldrums is to give yourself a task that you can really sink your teeth into. When was the last time you did anything different, or new?

Paradigms

Look at your life; the routine of the things you do each day, the types of people you are around, the beliefs and opinions you support. All of those limit you in what is referred to your “paradigm”. Your paradigm is your version of reality; your “matrix”. Most people do not do anything different from day to day.

Carpe Diem!

Seize the day!

Time is of the essence. Time is too short to stay depressed. Do something different. Don’t hesitate. Experience something new. Learn something you never knew before. Meet some new people. Start right now. Make a list of 10 things you would like to do, that you would not normally do. Pick 1 or 2 of them and get started.

Results of your actions

It will make you feel great! Once you start accomplishing your new directions, you will get a good feeling; a feeling of self-worth and self-esteem. A feeling of “I am Alive!” You will feel better about yourself and the world you live in. Be prepared to leave your depression behind.

Great Things Happen Here!

Develop Great Relationships With Lovers, Family and Friends

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Your passion helps you have great relationships with lovers, family and friends

It seems to me that there are few things more important than relationships with lovers, family and friends.

Living your life with passion has a huge impact on your relationships.

Here are 7 key strategies to provoke your thinking on how and why this linkage between passion and relationships is so strong.

1. The willingness to be true to yourself.

Stop trying to appeal to everybody: you won’t! Yet, to whom will you appeal? This is almost impossible to answer, particularly since every person experiences life uniquely, through the filters of their subconscious minds. And it is our subconscious minds that enable us, indeed drive us, to create our beliefs and behaviors.

Therefore, the most effective strategy is to be true to your own beliefs and values, and to be true to how you wish to live your life; those with whom you come into contact can then make their own choices on whether they are attracted to you or not. You become ‘authentic’.

2. Doing the work to discover and pursue your passion.

I have been researching and speaking on the topic of passion for over 18 years, and have pursued my passions for over 50 years. What is ‘passion’? It is a source of unlimited energy from your soul, or spirit, or heart that enables you to produce extraordinary results.

When you are passionate, you immediately raise your personal energy and become far more attractive to other human beings. As the law of gravity states: the inter-attractiveness of a body to another is determined by its mass, and your passion increases your metaphysical mass. You will stand out from the crowd, and others will notice you more readily.

3. The willingness to simplify your life.

There is too much ‘stuff’’ in our lives that does not fulfill us, nurture us, or give us lasting joy.

When you discover your passion, you are more able to decide what is important to you. You can discard unnecessary complexities that you are hoarding, or pursuing, ‘just in case’ they might make you happy. Simplifying your life creates time for you to devote to your relationships that have been created because you are being true to you.

4. The willingness to be vulnerable.

I learned a long time ago that when vulnerability meets vulnerability, it creates intimacy. Intimacy is the hallmark of great relationships.

When you are vulnerable, open, honest, courageous, and true to yourself, other people are more likely to feel your essence and respond similarly Then intimacy can be created, and you need to spend less time proving your commitment to the relationships: others become less demanding because the feeling of intimacy is a powerful glue that holds the relationships.

5. Allow others to be true to themselves.

Release your need for others to behave in ways that suit you. If you are going to be true to yourself, then allow others to do the same. That way, you can more quickly decide whether you are truly attracted to another person, or whether it’s their ‘act’ that has drawn you in. Real and valuable relationships can form more quickly.

6. Adopt the concept of ‘Parallel Thinking’.

Edward de Bono’s book ‘Parallel Thinking’ beautifully explores our 3000-year tradition of Western philosophical thought that proposes there is ‘truth’ to be discovered in any issue. De Bono however says there are often times when competing ideas or thoughts can run ‘in parallel’ because there is no truth: for example, in designing a new car or a new building.

By allowing parallel thoughts to run in your relationships, you become much more flexible, leading to less conflict about what is right, wrong, true or untrue, and you become much more lovable and fun to be with.

7. The willingness to learn the principles of time management.

I have worked with many time poor executives over the past 18 years, in both corporate groups and as their executive coach. I am appalled by the quality of time management skills of most of them!

Develop your ability to protect your time and invest it in matters that are of importance to you, particularly the building of great relationships. There are many sources available to learn these skills. If you invest your time in developing these skills, you will enjoy a remarkable reduction in stress and a remarkable increase in your experience of the many joys of life.

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD

Australasia’s Passion Provocateur©

Certified Speaking Professional – Kovess.com

Your Pursuit of Passion Should Never Take a Holiday

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Get more passion for your health and reap the rewards

 

Ask Yourself,…

  1. Are you passionate about your health?

  2. What is your health worth?

  3. How would you know if you are healthy?

 

Based on over 45 years’ of exploring and implementing alternative health regimes, I have developed my own definition of health, and I commend it to you. Hardly anybody I have met has a clear definition in their mind! My definition is this:

‘Health’ is the unique optimal balance for each person of mental, physical, and spiritual elements.

Most people consider themselves healthy if they are not sick or specifically unwell in a particular aspect. However, this is a limited and limiting view of our existence. Imagine a health spectrum of 1 to 100, where 1 is almost dead, and 100 is perfect health. Not being unwell is just 51 on this scale. A minor ailment would put you as unhealthy, but probably at 49.

You would be unlikely to say you are ‘healthy’ if you have ailments.

Now, on this spectrum, or scale, where would you rate yourself and your health? Tell the truth: don’t fool yourself.

I repeat my question at the start of this blog: are you passionate about your health?

If your health is over 90 on my scale, then these are the rewards you will reap:

 

∞ You are highly energetic
∞ When you are highly energetic, you can add enormous value
∞ The universe rewards you based on the value you add, so you will receive enormous benefits
∞ The benefits will be mental (money, recognition, status, achievement), physical (things you can buy with money, experiences, feeling great) and spiritual (fun, contribution, friendship, passion)
∞ You will spend very little on medical bills and you won’t worry about medical insurance at the highest level
∞ You will not lose time in hospital having operations or treatments
∞ Your relationships will be improved because it is difficult to be loving and caring when you are unwell
∞ You will have an outstanding sex life
∞ You will have more fun: being sick is not fun!
∞ You can live your life continuously on purpose and with meaning, without constant and frequent interruptions because you are unwell.

I suggest to you that the rewards for you in dollar terms of this list of items is many millions of dollars.

When you see this, you will learn not to ignore your health, or to accept a health assessment of less than 80 on my scale.

Don’t be silly: learn to value your health. Generate a deep passion for your health. Be happy to pay the price of caring for your health. It is a ridiculously small price to pay!

 

Charles Kovess

 

Kovess International

“Harnessing Passion for World-Class Results!”

Are You Important?

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I Wonder if you think of these things…

What would happen if you no longer had any friends or family around to remind you how important you are to them?

What if you had a job where you know how unimportant you are and how easily you could be replaced by another unimportant person?

What if everywhere you went you were just another face in the crowd, unnoticed.

What if the only thing you ever really accomplished in life was to “show up”?

An Insight:

Someone recently reminded me of what self-importance is and how it is sometimes demonstrated.  I had a contractor do some work for me.  An emergency circumstance occurred that he had to attend to that I was not made aware of.  All I knew was he left my job unfinished with no explanation.

So when I contacted him, I was greeted with the ever pending answering machine.  I did leave him an urgent message to get back with me and provide an explanation as to why he didn’t finish the job.

When he contacted me, he was upset with me!  He immediately started by proclaiming how important he is.  After I negotiated a truce, he finally explained about the emergency.

The Lesson:

There is nobody that is more or less important than anyone else.  What makes us feel important is how others treat us.  Some people strive to receive adoration.  Some manipulate others to gain followers.  Some have created a grandiose self-image.  And some will live in misery to attract the attention it provides.  All of these create a sense of self-importance.  Mostly it is delusional.

The most consistent things about important people is what they do for others.  They don’t need to do it loudly or from a pedestal.  The just do it.  They don’t need appreciation or adoration.  Sometimes their actions go unnoticed.  And knowing they are important people is not something that is meaningful to their egos.

I guess you could say that describes my wife.  She is important to many people.  She is relentless at helping others, as well as doing nice things for me.  When I tell her she is important, she will usually reply,  “That’s nice.”

Another reality:

There are plenty of people all around you that have lost their sense of importance.  Take the moment to seek them out during this Holiday Season.  Let them know they are important.  It may be the most meaningful thing they have heard all year.

Great Things Happen Here!

Brain Management has many facets.

Haiti – Hope Born From Anarchy with Mental Will Power

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There is a big message here to those that will listen.  The power of the mind can move mountains when it is focused on a common goal.  Haiti has just endured everything from looting to anarchy.  HOPE is like a virus. All it takes is a tiny bit of hope.  But, it spreads quickly and solidifies resolve.

The amount of lives lost is insurmountable.  The idea of mass graves in not a pleasant thought to digest.  They had to.

Out of the carnage, there is a continuous flow of good news right along with the bad news.  The good news is fueling hope. Despair is waning.  A monumental stream of cash flow for rebuilding Haiti and assisting its’ survivors is flowing like a river from governments and donations to the organizations that can make the difference.

The on-the-ground forces and aid groups are organizing, regulating the unrest, and assisting the Haitians to put their lives back together.  The message of hope has multiplied by the hands-on approach to helping them.

Even from afar, it is easy to see there has been quite a turnaround in attitude over the past days.  When the Presidential Palace collapsed, it symbolized to the people that their government had fallen.  The chaos that followed immediately plunged Haiti into anarchy.  Since then the government has regrouped, and the immediate dangers have been quelled.

Even though Haiti is poor, the hard life has tempered them into very strong willed people.  When the combined will of a population can be focused in a specific direction, they can move mountains.  In this case it starts with mountains of rubble.

Adding the energy of the military and the aid groups, hope has emerged and become a paramount force that will carry them forward.  Hope will prevail, even when there is nothing else.

HOPE + Will Power (Mental Strength) = GAIN

That is the reason humanity has stood the test of time.

Remember, there are plenty of lessons you can observe here.  Some of those may even be more important than this one.

The tenacity of your fellow humans is worth notice.

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